As a little kid, I remember being quite sulky at times… usually because of something my parents/siblings did that I thought was unjust, unfair, or just plain mean. My strongest memories of those moments were those when I promised myself that when I got older, I wouldn’t do the same. Unfortunately for seven-year-old me, I broke them. D: I told myself I wouldn’t forget how it felt to be “oppressed”, I said I’d be considerate ’cause I would remember how it felt to be a kid… I vowed never to be like my parents who belittled everything that mattered to me, and cast aside my opinions.
/*I sound so bitter haha, but what can I do; I’m not bitter though… maybe just a little bit. This is just me complaining about stuff I can only change if I keep them in mind forever and ever =))*/
That horrible feeling that I’m getting old and growing up (oh really now), and acting just like my parents… my worst nightmare! /*jk, don’t kill me mom!*/
I feel like facepalming myself, because I’ll eventually become what I “hated”. I feel sorry for all the little people who have to be part of this vicious cycle. I guess the stuff our elders keep telling us must have some grain of truth in them that we realize when we get “older”, or else generations of kids wouldn’t be picking it up, now would we? Unless we’re really just insensitive sometimes.
Here’s a list of stuff I’ve sometimes caught myself doing which my elder siblings and parents did to me first (HA. I am justified! jk), and my theories on why we/they do it. I bet my little sister, who is my main victim, has told herself she won’t do it either; I can see it on her face ((: :
/* Please keep in mind that I’m not saying all adults think this way, please don’t react outrageously; this is just my observations of how those around me act. I’m sure there are exceptions. */
– We do the chores no one wants because the young ones get ordered around.
~ I don’t think this should still be explained; and I’m guilty of this most often; I have to admit I do it ’cause I’m lazy sometimes. And you have to admit it is kinda fun to order your little sibling to do something for you. ((: #apologetic.nonotreally
– When there was an event that I want to go to that was important to me [like a party], my mom wouldn’t rush, saying it didn’t matter because no one’s late for a kiddie party. Yet when it’s her event, she rushes us all ’cause it’s so much more important.
~ I guess it is true that our parents’ appointments are more significant than ours but even if the matter isn’t so “important”, I think that it’s not fair that this is done to younger people because it IS important to us, and it kinda sucks when someone says that something that matters to you isn’t going to be prioritized. I guess our parent’s don’t get why we need to go to something we want, and it must seem negligible to them now that they’re past this stage in their lives.
Although I don’t get invited to parties anymore (sadlyf HAHA), I remember as a kid that I would be pissed if they started the games without me. I’ve never been to any non school sponsored highschool parties, so I’m going to assume that you miss something else? ((;
– When I would give an opinion and people brush it off / react strongly against it, but when someone older (and, in their opinion, more credible) says exactly the same thing, they accept it and tell them how awesome their thought was.
~ Ugh, we are still victims of this today unfortunately. It’s such a frustrating feeling, and I absolutely hate it. I guess this is done to us because they can’t admit that something sensible came out of us and not them; or their pride won’t let them accept that someone much younger said something wise/deep that they should’ve thought of first… so they pretend not to have heard us and repeat it moments later so that it’ll seem like it’s their idea.
This is us being victim to the stereotype “Teenagers have such under-developed brains that they appear self-absorbed, foolish, fickle fellows who don’t understand anything, period, and try to bluff their way through their personal bubble.*” It really irks me when they generalize. I believe there are some of us who do think of stuff besides clothes, music, drama, (etc) and the opposite sex. We ARE capable of reasonable thought, we CAN discuss politics and issues that concern people outside our circle of friends. We aren’t all completely hormone-driven/sex crazy. Elders claim that we are over-influenced by mass media, but I guess they are too; if they are clumping everyone with those bat-crazy, wild “people” who are considered normal whom they see on television. Honestly, I don’t know if I live under a rock, but I don’t know very many people who act like them.
~ When we do something radical, ridiculous or rebellious that our elders never did, they think that we’re so bratty, disrespectful and unreasonable. So they start with the ever-so-famous “When I was a kid I…”. From things like technology available to us and not them to stuff like the rising percentage of delinquents / young mothers, they seem to love telling us how much we suck.
- I’m sure we’ve all heard this at some point, and it IS annoying right? I do this to m sister too though (such a hypocrite ((= ). I’m getting so riled up right now, but I guess they could be somewhat justified, and things do get worse (they say). Sometimes though, I feel like answering back that it is somewhat their fault too.
When they tell us how they survived without our gadgets, I think they’re trying to make themselves feel better ’cause they’re jealous they didn’t have the same opportunities we have right now. I bet we’ll say this to our kids, and they’ll be all “yuck, an iPad, how lame!”
When they talk about how polluted our world is right now and reminisce those days when no one got <insert disease that stared existing recently>, when there were no floods and cities were fields and forests, I wish they would realize that it’s not our generation that spearheaded the industrial revolution. We weren’t even born yet! It’s not us who started it; and they’re leaving us to deal with a dying planet and expecting us to fix it.
When they tell us that they were much more behaved back then and no one got pregnant from partying too hard, when children obeyed their parents and finished college… it is true, but not completely. Circumstances were different, and during the 80′s, they had their own kind of rebellion. I don’t believe no one got knocked up; girls were probably just too scared to come out, and the parents probably kept the shame to themselves. Sure, maybe crimes committed by adolescents are higher, but not everyone does it right? Maybe they didn’t raise their kids right. They shouldn’t say that we’re victims of mass media because we all see it, but we don’t all mimic what we see. I believe it’s all in the upbringing, not poverty level ’cause I know even rich kids do it for fun. I wish they’d look at themselves first before criticizing us because if you really don’t keep a handle on your child, he/she is more susceptible to caving in to pressure and committing heinous acts.
Maybe they say those things ’cause they really don’t understand how different we are compared to them, and they don’t know how to handle something they might not have experienced for themselves… I guess it’s a sign of their frustrations towards a generation which might be this way because of things that happened in history that no one has control over.
That’s all for now, but I might add if I remember some more or if any suggestions come in the comments; *nudge,nudge*
I hope I didn’t sound too angry or something up there. To anyone reading this, I hope you don’t get too affected by something I said which isn’t true for you. …Although if there’s anything you want to say, I’m open to anything :)
I wonder if I/we can keep this in mind ’till we get older? I really dislike/d being made to feel insignificant, and you probably do too. Let’s be nice to our juniors, even if we didn’t get the same treatment. After all, we wish for the same.
* credits to “Phil”, who rewrote the line : ”Teenagers are self-absorbed, foolish, fickle fellows who don’t understand anything outside their personal bubble.”
~ His original comment may be found in the comments box. :)
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